Love. A feeling and sensation that changes our lives, for better or for worse. When the spark of a relationship is smaller than its fiery flame, things might become tough, especially when your personality might naturally change as the years go by. You want to make it work, but you don’t know-how. Here are some tips for maintaining your relationship for years to come, and even until death.
Spend time together: Communicating with and understanding your significant other is the key ingredient to maintaining a strong relationship. No matter how busy your day is, it’s important to reserve an hour or more for your loved one to connect with them and demonstrate that you love spending time with them. Checking up on your significant other throughout the day also shows that you care about your partner’s well-being and vice-versa. What’s not to love about that?
Be honest: Yes, it is hard to be honest, but it would be disastrous if you kept things from your partner. Being in a relationship requires trusting that person to understand you even if they don’t agree on something. That is what compromise is all about. Never assume that your loved one knows what’s bothering you. This is one of the main reasons why people part ways. Talk to them and be honest about how you feel. Forgive one another. If you are honest, you can find solutions to overcome these situations and maintain a positive relationship between the two of you.
Be each other’s cheerleader: We all need a supporter to help us overcome our obstacles or try new things. If this support is coming from your partner, then it is the greatest feeling in the world. Not only are they encouraging you to try new things, but they are also ensuring that they are with you in whatever happens next.
Remind each other that you love one another: This is something that I heard of years ago. Each person would write a letter expressing their love and devotion for one another, and it would be placed in a locked box along with a bottle of champagne. The box would only be opened when the relationship seemed to be fading for good. The box would be unlocked, and the couple would read the letters that the other person wrote for them. This helps you and your partner remember how much you mean to one another. This will also encourage you to find solutions to make the relationship work again if you truly love that person while drinking champagne and breaking the tension with laughs and happy memories.
Couples therapy: There’s no shame in asking for help. By going to a therapy session together, you will be able to openly talk about your problems in a safe environment, release some of the tensions the two of you are having, and receive constructive feedback on how to overcome them. It is highly suggested that you attend a session together before the relationship becomes broken. This will help you learn the necessary skills to strengthen your relationship and not allow fights or misunderstandings to break the relationship for good.
Do activities together: Along with sexual pleasures, think of activities that the two of you enjoy doing together. Participating in these events will strengthen your relationship and remind you of the traits that you love about your partner.
People change over time, but that doesn’t mean that the magic is gone forever. If you truly love this person, then the two of you will find ways to overcome these blocks and maintain the relationship that you had kept for a long time. Relationships are dwindling more than ever as couples are breaking apart from each other due to many reasons. Why don’t we change that and prove that loving relationships can still be maintained even after hard situations have occurred between them?
Citations
- https://thriveglobal.com/stories/7-things-that-keep-a-relationship-alive/
- https://www.self.com/story/couples-therapists-ways-keep-park-alive-long-term-relationship